Allow Yourself to Live Goal-Free

Here is an email I just received from a reader. When working on the Goal-Free Living project, I thought the people who would be most interested were the “Goalaholics”. But I have found that there are large numbers of people who already live Goal-Free, but feel ostracized by society. If anyone else has a great story to tell, please let me know. Thanks.

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Thank you!! I happened upon your web page this morning, and at first I thought it was a joke–Goal Free Living?! After all, everyone knows you won’t get anywhere in this life if you DON’T HAVE GOALS! Well, I have to admit, I’m 43, a mother of 5, a busy professional, a wife, and have never set a goal in my life, other than to get my black belt in Tae Kwon Do, which I did at age 41. Somehow, though, I’ve managed to build what I consider a successful life, all without the aid of setting goals.

I guess I’ve lived in the moment, for the moment, that setting goals seemed so structured and unbending. Yet, I’m a school counselor and teach seniors how to get ready for “LIFE”, which is supposed to include goal setting. Guess what! I have yet to teach them how to do that! Can’t teach what you don’t know, or what you don’t believe in. I obtained my Master’s when I was 21, am currently working on National Board Certification, and am in constant pursuit of knowledge and personal and spiritual growth. I never would have set these as goals for myself, yet I always achieve what I set out for. Thank you for giving me “permission” to live a goal-less life, and to feel OK about it. And for letting me know I’m NOT ALONE!!

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Another Letter from a Website Reader

I was reading your website this morning, and it makes a lot of sense. My friends and I always say, one day when I am married I will have this and that, or one day when I have children, when I have a large house on the water, etc…. I don’t fully appreciate my life now, today, all the good things I have now, being single, successful, having many friends, being young, energetic, being able to do whatever I want anytime I want and not have to ask permission or let anyone know what I’m going to do. Right now, today, is the time I should enjoy the most, having the time to hang out with my grandparents and family more, being able to travel and do adventures. Thanks, by reading just your website I am taking a different approach on things starting today….

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Letters from Readers

Today I want to share two emails I recently received from a couple of newletter and website readers. Keep the stories coming.

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I am counsellor and weight-loss consultant for a reputable weight-loss company. I was recently asked to write an article for the newsletter about goal setting but something didn’t seem right to me. I facilitate groups and encourage clients to live in the “here and now” to visit the “future” and visit the “past” but not to lose sight of the here and now. Your web site and newsletter has helped me put goal free living into perspective.

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When I was checking out the website on your book, it partly inspired my New Year’s resolution. Last semester I found myself complaining about school a lot, even saying how I felt like I was sacrificing my present enjoyment of life for my future. But, what I realized was that I really did want to be in school and it is the right thing for me to be doing, so I resolved to adjust my attitude towards it, to take advantage of and enjoy the opportunities, learning, and growth it offers. And it’s been going very well so far!

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