Comment from Blog

October 12, 2005

Here is the first paragraph of another comment posted on my blog:

“I stumbled across your web site today and succumbed to my curious state. Goal-Free Living, how contrary to the stuff forced down me since childhood. I have seldom successfully done the goal thing. It some how runs against my nature to live life with some spontaneity. The word flow appeals to lovers of freedom and originality. The setting of goals according to someone else’s suggestion immediately puts you on there path to some degree, changes the flow if you will. Whoa says I. Do not take me off my path. It may be a bad path or it may be a good path but it is my path. If I divert my attention to this goal preparation at someone’s behest, I will probably, to some degree, put down those goals the goal pusher wants, which leads me away from my inner path, brought to me by all my natural faculties. Now it may be that my faculties are not so good, or perhaps the goal pushers faculties are not so good. Should I trust him or me? There-in lies the rub. It reminds me of a line in an old country and western song, ‘I can make my own mistakes just fine.’”

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Comment on Blog

October 5, 2005

From time to time, I will take comments buried deep within my blog, and include them here. Here is a recent comment that you may not have seen.

“How our perspectives get elevated in accordance with our inflation in life experience, external events and thus expectations. We get moulded, bullied and branded everyday into beliefs, popular opinion and attitude which engulf our individual spirits wave after wave. I often feel typhooned by the current climate and culture immediate to me. That is to say, laziness, ineptness, a restraint for anything self sacrificial, self analytical (introspective), innovative creativity, exploration and a culture shaped by convenience.

“I feel out of place because my attitude stems from wanting to rise to the top through unorthodox methods – meeting and knowing people. Human character and the person behind the letters and degrees to their name. I am a great believer in networking and that we are all within a nexus of humanity – of which can be contacted behind all types of masks and protrusions that protect the inner sanctum of our souls and mettle.

“I could say much more, but what I basically mean is that by Goal free living and slowing my life down in accordance with my current environment and a whole lot more, I have been able to cope with myself and my environment.”

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How Bali Made Me Rich

September 21, 2005

Here is an email I recently received from Jana Stanfield — a talented musician and keynote speaker.

It was December, the summer of 2003 in Bali. My beloved friend Holly Steil and I went to Bali because we’d always heard how spiritual and special it is.

Trading our money for local currency, we discovered that about $100 U.S. gave us about $1 million Bali dollars. This is when my lessons about wealth began.

1. Carrying $1 million in your fanny pack every day helps you answer important questions like: Do I feel different now that I’m a millionaire? Do I have less problems now that I’m a millionaire? Why not? Am I happier? Why not?

2. Holly and I were treated like the Hilton Sisters, Paris and Nikki. There we were, walking around with millions, able to buy anything we wanted on this beautiful island, but instead of wanting to buy everything, I found myself wanting to give. I noticed that I felt uncomfortable being a millionaire with so many good people around me living happily with so much less.

3. One day I told Guna, our guide, that I was afraid I’d accidentally paid $70,000 for a call to my husband instead of $7,000. I thought the grey-haired Balinese man at the phone shop had taken advantage of me. Guna assured me that it was unlikely. “In the Hindu culture, greed is an enemy of the spirit. Having a pure spirit means everything to the Balinese.” I felt ashamed for wrongly accusing the man of cheating me, when I had more in my pocket than he would make all year.

4. Greed, an enemy of the spirit. In our country, greed is glorified. Those with the most money are admired and even envied, like the Joneses we’re always trying to keep up with. Guess what? In Bali, envy is an enemy of the spirit, too.

5. If I were rich . . . I’d spend more time on endeavors that nourish my spirit. I’d give more to charity without worrying about myself. I’d trust that I’ll always have more than enough. I’d stop postponing all those adventures I plan to enjoy “when I get ahead.”

I’ve never been the same. I stopped being so financially-driven and so career-driven. I stopped being financially afraid and became financially free. The trip increased my faith in so many ways. That’s why I’m going back for the third time, and why I hope you’ll go with me.

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Email from Visitor

July 20, 2005

I received the following email from a visitor to the website…

“I took a Goal Setting course in 1989. I reached one financial goal. Did not reach the others. Since 1989 life often interfered with my goal setting. Many of the twist and turns were painful, however I learned many lessons and because of those experiences my life if much richer. Goal Setting is over rated. Should I enjoy a wonderful Saturday reading and working in the garden or should I get down on myself because I wasted a Saturday by not ‘moving toward a goal?’ I’d rather enjoy just my Saturday. One day I decided to write down the happiest moments of my life. They included swimming under a waterfall, giving a speech in the Boy Scouts, playing the guitar, and dating my girl friend the summer after college. Not one of these happy events was the result of setting a goal!”

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Goal-Free Student in UAE

March 11, 2005

I recently received an email from Salah, a computer engineering student at the American University of Sharjah in the United Arab Emirates.

A few months ago he wrote an essay entitled “Individual Success: Made of Goals or Sudden Awareness?” for his advanced English Communication course in 2nd year college. He provides his own spin on Goal-Free Living.

You can read it at

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Allow Yourself to Live Goal-Free

February 21, 2005

Here is an email I just received from a reader. When working on the Goal-Free Living project, I thought the people who would be most interested were the “Goalaholics”. But I have found that there are large numbers of people who already live Goal-Free, but feel ostracized by society. If anyone else has a great story to tell, please let me know. Thanks.


Thank you!! I happened upon your web page this morning, and at first I thought it was a joke–Goal Free Living?! After all, everyone knows you won’t get anywhere in this life if you DON’T HAVE GOALS! Well, I have to admit, I’m 43, a mother of 5, a busy professional, a wife, and have never set a goal in my life, other than to get my black belt in Tae Kwon Do, which I did at age 41. Somehow, though, I’ve managed to build what I consider a successful life, all without the aid of setting goals.

I guess I’ve lived in the moment, for the moment, that setting goals seemed so structured and unbending. Yet, I’m a school counselor and teach seniors how to get ready for “LIFE”, which is supposed to include goal setting. Guess what! I have yet to teach them how to do that! Can’t teach what you don’t know, or what you don’t believe in. I obtained my Master’s when I was 21, am currently working on National Board Certification, and am in constant pursuit of knowledge and personal and spiritual growth. I never would have set these as goals for myself, yet I always achieve what I set out for. Thank you for giving me “permission” to live a goal-less life, and to feel OK about it. And for letting me know I’m NOT ALONE!!

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Another Letter from a Website Reader

February 9, 2005

I was reading your website this morning, and it makes a lot of sense. My friends and I always say, one day when I am married I will have this and that, or one day when I have children, when I have a large house on the water, etc…. I don’t fully appreciate my life now, today, all the good things I have now, being single, successful, having many friends, being young, energetic, being able to do whatever I want anytime I want and not have to ask permission or let anyone know what I’m going to do. Right now, today, is the time I should enjoy the most, having the time to hang out with my grandparents and family more, being able to travel and do adventures. Thanks, by reading just your website I am taking a different approach on things starting today….

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Letters from Readers

January 26, 2005

Today I want to share two emails I recently received from a couple of newletter and website readers. Keep the stories coming.


I am counsellor and weight-loss consultant for a reputable weight-loss company. I was recently asked to write an article for the newsletter about goal setting but something didn’t seem right to me. I facilitate groups and encourage clients to live in the “here and now” to visit the “future” and visit the “past” but not to lose sight of the here and now. Your web site and newsletter has helped me put goal free living into perspective.


When I was checking out the website on your book, it partly inspired my New Year’s resolution. Last semester I found myself complaining about school a lot, even saying how I felt like I was sacrificing my present enjoyment of life for my future. But, what I realized was that I really did want to be in school and it is the right thing for me to be doing, so I resolved to adjust my attitude towards it, to take advantage of and enjoy the opportunities, learning, and growth it offers. And it’s been going very well so far!

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