Comments on: Why Being Self-Centered is Good http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/ Steve shares his unconventional approach on Business Innovation, Creativity, Goals and Critical Thinking Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:12:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: jeannie http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-37209 jeannie Tue, 21 Sep 2010 02:29:04 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-37209 thanks for the information on self-centered. family and friends thing that i am self-centered. but i am not. i am a late bloomer, but now i stand up for my self. individuals are not use to this behavior. oh well. i am enjoying it because i can be myself. thanks again, Living thanks for the information on self-centered. family and friends thing that i am self-centered. but i am not. i am a late bloomer, but now i stand up for my self. individuals are not use to this behavior. oh well. i am enjoying it because i can be myself.

thanks again,

Living

]]> By: Stephen Shapiro http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-37029 Stephen Shapiro Sat, 14 Aug 2010 14:51:41 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-37029 Hi Kemi... From my point of view, selfish is NOT the same as self-centered. They are often used interchangeably. Selfish, from my definition, means that your actions are truly coming from the point of view of your own self interest. Self-centered means using your life as the "grounding" to help you then play full out in life, making contributions. When you "center" or "ground" yourself on something other than your own life, you run the risk of losing that center if something goes wrong. Thanks for asking. Hi Kemi…

From my point of view, selfish is NOT the same as self-centered. They are often used interchangeably.

Selfish, from my definition, means that your actions are truly coming from the point of view of your own self interest.

Self-centered means using your life as the “grounding” to help you then play full out in life, making contributions.

When you “center” or “ground” yourself on something other than your own life, you run the risk of losing that center if something goes wrong.

Thanks for asking.

]]> By: Kemi Jeje http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-37026 Kemi Jeje Fri, 13 Aug 2010 22:09:32 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-37026 Thks so much Steve, was just wondering if bin self center is same as bin selfish... Guess people need to learn to be self centered, to be able to have any substance to give to others. Thks so much Steve, was just wondering if bin self center is same as bin selfish…
Guess people need to learn to be self centered, to be able to have any substance to give to others.

]]> By: Stephen Shapiro http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-35543 Stephen Shapiro Mon, 23 Feb 2009 21:34:27 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-35543 Alice, my pleasure! Thanks for the kind words. Dr. YKK (I am a fan of yours), I love your perspective. I never thought of it that way, but you are SO right. PRLdom, fascinating point of view. I like the concept of "extending the self" to include more than just your own physical being, the idea of "increased self responsibility for others." The one challenge I have with this is the concept of "control." We have control (to some degree) over our own actions and responses. We don't have the ability (or even desire) to control others; they have their own self interests to look after. Regardless, your perspective is thought provoking and appreciated. Steve Alice, my pleasure! Thanks for the kind words.

Dr. YKK (I am a fan of yours), I love your perspective. I never thought of it that way, but you are SO right.

PRLdom, fascinating point of view. I like the concept of “extending the self” to include more than just your own physical being, the idea of “increased self responsibility for others.” The one challenge I have with this is the concept of “control.” We have control (to some degree) over our own actions and responses. We don’t have the ability (or even desire) to control others; they have their own self interests to look after. Regardless, your perspective is thought provoking and appreciated.

Steve

]]> By: PTLdom http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-35527 PTLdom Sat, 21 Feb 2009 13:48:18 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-35527 . Being self-centered may imply, above all, the conscience of self-being, as a conscious living been, who, above all, deeply feels alive and find it good. Then, we leave through core values and beliefs. Ah, and affections. Not to mention impulses and instincts, regarding the efforts and some degree of welcomed sacrifices to protect our family. Children become an intrinsic part or us, of our self-being, and anything that happens to them will impact on our state of being. Then, being self-centered implies, also, an acquired sense of increased self-responsibility for others, meaning we, voluntarily, give up of some "self" to extend ourselves, instinctively, to reinforce the life of others. In the end, not all cultures are equally born from the affiliation point of view, nor in the way of what is seen as acceptable or not, regarding how we feel better with our selves and with the ohters. . Being self-centered may imply, above all, the conscience of self-being, as a conscious living been, who, above all, deeply feels alive and find it good. Then, we leave through core values and beliefs. Ah, and affections. Not to mention impulses and instincts, regarding the efforts and some degree of welcomed sacrifices to protect our family. Children become an intrinsic part or us, of our self-being, and anything that happens to them will impact on our state of being. Then, being self-centered implies, also, an acquired sense of increased self-responsibility for others, meaning we, voluntarily, give up of some “self” to extend ourselves, instinctively, to reinforce the life of others. In the end, not all cultures are equally born from the affiliation point of view, nor in the way of what is seen as acceptable or not, regarding how we feel better with our selves and with the ohters.

]]> By: Yew Kam Keong (Dr.YKK) http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-35524 Yew Kam Keong (Dr.YKK) Sat, 21 Feb 2009 00:08:15 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-35524 I agree with you on self-centredness. You spoke about leaving out religion. But all religions began with self-centredness. The great prophets received their revelations when they meditate alone, totally self-centred. That's where they began to ask questions about life's purpose and their destinies after death. Their ephipanies then served as the basis of their teachings. Isn't it all about self-centredness? Dr.YKK (Yew Kam Keong) I agree with you on self-centredness. You spoke about leaving out religion. But all religions began with self-centredness. The great prophets received their revelations when they meditate alone, totally self-centred. That’s where they began to ask questions about life’s purpose and their destinies after death. Their ephipanies then served as the basis of their teachings. Isn’t it all about self-centredness?
Dr.YKK (Yew Kam Keong)

]]> By: Alice Inoue http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-35523 Alice Inoue Fri, 20 Feb 2009 23:51:34 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-35523 Thank you so much for offering this clear way to explain what I have been trying to say for "years" without the same effect. You are amazing Steve. Thank you for all you do. Thank you so much for offering this clear way to explain what I have been trying to say for “years” without the same effect. You are amazing Steve. Thank you for all you do.

]]> By: Stephen Shapiro http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-35522 Stephen Shapiro Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:21:33 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-35522 Braden, I love the tie in to personal branding and innovation. Perfect! Steve Braden, I love the tie in to personal branding and innovation. Perfect! Steve

]]> By: Braden Kelley http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-35521 Braden Kelley Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:14:10 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-35521 I've definitely seen an increase in the number of employees building a personal brand that they leverage to benefit their employer, instead of allowing themselves to only be part of their employee's brand. This trend I refered to as 'personal innovation' in article from January 2008 which you can find here: http://www.business-strategy-innovation.com/2008/01/personal-innovation-shine-your-star.html I hope it is useful in this down economy. @innovate I’ve definitely seen an increase in the number of employees building a personal brand that they leverage to benefit their employer, instead of allowing themselves to only be part of their employee’s brand. This trend I refered to as ‘personal innovation’ in article from January 2008 which you can find here:

http://www.business-strategy-innovation.com/2008/01/personal-innovation-shine-your-star.html

I hope it is useful in this down economy.

@innovate

]]> By: Stephen Shapiro http://www.steveshapiro.com/2009/01/27/be-self-centered-but-not-selfish/#comment-35520 Stephen Shapiro Fri, 20 Feb 2009 20:41:32 +0000 http://www.steveshapiro.com/?p=1716#comment-35520 Dave - self-caring - that is fantastic! Thanks for that. Dave – self-caring – that is fantastic! Thanks for that.

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